As women, we are often told not to complain about things and to just let it be. It has been a common theme throughout our life, tracing it back to our childhood where our brother or other people would get away with bullying us and we’d be told to quiet down and stop complaining, to our teenage years where were taught to shrink ourselves so that the men in our lives could occupy more space. Naturally when you are taught these things from a young age, they unconsciously become a part of you. So, when you get married, you keep letting go of your spouse’s faults simply because you don’t want to disrespect or dishonor your family.
This trend goes on for a long time, and a lot of women end up spending their entire lives in an empty shell marriage simply because they know of no other way. Things get more complicated when there are children too, then you are faced with even more pressure to keep your marriage together “for the sake of the children” because they need a stable house to live and grow up in, however, this should not be the case.
You do not owe anything to anyone because at the end of the day, they will go back to their houses and their lives and you will continue living yours. Children are very receptive, they can detect tension and friction between parents, and sometimes it is better for the children because witnessing an empty shell marriage will distort their view of marriage as well. Your safety and your wellbeing comes before everyone else, so it is okay to consider divorce, and even go through with it. You can even find Indian family lawyers Melbourne to help you sort your case and deal with details like alimony, child custody and child support.